Archive for ‘Elizabeth McClung’

November 19, 2008

On Beth’s meditation: Falling

Beth uses her seizures and falling as a metaphor for the difficulties that people face, and enjoins her friends to see people’s falls (in the sense of adverse circumstances) as an opportunity to be the hero we imagined ourselves as children.

I fall quite often. It comes free with the bad hips, bad knees, bad ankles and bad feet. What I have learned is there is no point to fighting it. When I feel me going down, I bring me down instead of trying to stay upright. People often think I just suddenly decided to sit. Indeed, I did. I decided that suddenly sitting would be better than suddenly slamming into the floor. Gravity is a harsh mistress.

It’s peculiar who will stop to help and who will make it a point to not see that any help is needed. Some people are terrified to acknowledge that others are having difficulties, even small ones. To notice the needs of others would force them to have to consider helping. To refuse to help would make them Bad People. But to offer help would undermine their autonomous self-image, since in the act of rendering real assistance, the helper and the person being helped become one in their goal. And some people fear being helped for exactly that reason, that loss of the illusion of independence. I mean, it is an illusion. We are all interdependent, we truly cannot live without each other.

September 24, 2008

Support EFM!

Why should you help Elizabeth McClung? If you follow her blog, you know that she is a good friend, a generous person, and way, way too self-deprecating to have accepted help before now. Her wife Linda can tell you what they need help with specifically. Linda has finally gotten a Paypal button working at her brand new blog, A Girl’s Gotta Fly, because so many of us have begged to be able to help.

Let me tell you how Elizabeth came into my life. She’s the one who took the initiative, browsing blogs during a night of insomnia. She found mine, and posted a comment about pain and dislocation. I’m a chronic insomniac so I responded right off, and then went to look at her blog. And I posted. And she responded! She responds to everyone! She’s great that way! To Elizabeth, everyone is important, and everyday is a day to be grabbed and lived. And she is astonishingly honest about the reality of life with a rapidly progressive disability.

I said she was generous, didn’t I? There’s no need to take my word for it. When she and Linda went to Japan, they took all Beth’s readers along, too. Tell me, if your health was steadily deteriorating and you had the chance to go on the vacation of a life time while you still had life, would you bring along a motley assortment of people you’ve never seen? But Beth did, posting wonderful photographs and in-depth coverage of her Big Adventure every single day, no matter how badly she was feeling at the end of a day of sightseeing. While there, she made a point of buying postcards to send to all of us who had asked for one, and she mailed them off steadily while she was still there! And since then, she has continued the fabulous Postcard Project. If you haven’t gotten a personalized postcard from Elizabeth, it’s only because it’s either in the mail right now or you haven’t asked.

Probably, if you are reading this, you are already a friend of Elizabeth, and I am telling you nothing new. But I wanted to post about her again anyway, and the advent of the Paypal donation button seems like as good an excuse as any.

April 5, 2008

Elizabeth McClung in Japan

Anyone who isn’t reading along with Elizabeth on her Dai Boken (“Big Adventure”) is an ol’ poopy head. Seriously, get yourself over to Screw Bronze! and read what may be the best ever disability travelogue on the web.

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